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I try to stay out of politics. But I think what is going on these days in the US, and around the world is pretty emotional, so it is relevant to what I write about and teach. If you want to be happy, you need to make peace in your mind. That includes making peace with yourself about politicians, political issues, and with people who believe differently than you.
So I took some time to write about how our political beliefs in our mind affect our emotions. My viewpoint is to look at what is going on from a 10,000 foot perspective. Perspective is important, and if you are going to change how you feel about an issue, how you feel about your self, or your relationship partner. You need to be able to change perspective. It is about zooming out and looking at the political conversations and arguments from a wider perspective. See the article further down for more on this.
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| Article: Belief Bias in Your Politics
Our emotional responses to beliefs and identity cause our mind to favor one interpretation over another in an effort to feel better.
In high school I played basketball and we were the Wolves. When you fouled my team mate I could feel it. I was a part of that team. Unconsciously I interpreted it as a foul against me. If you fouled or took a cheap shot at someone on my team, I emotionally personalized it to my identity. I could feel my nervous system respond as if you hit me. If I was watching another one of our teams play, and they won, I felt like WE won. I felt like I won. I identified with the team and I identified with the school. If it happened to the team or the school then it happened to me.
Over many years my mind was trained to identify and personalize with groups. This is good for building community, connecting and caring for people. It’s bad when you feel personally attacked even when you aren’t.
Notice what this unconscious act of identifying does to our behavior and emotions. In a way my consciousness is projected to this other person’s experience and I respond from that frame. I’m no longer a person in the stands watching the game. I’m emotionally experiencing the ups and downs of the game including winning and losing from the perspective of the player. In the same way I projected my consciousness into they idea of a team, we can also project or imagine our selves into a politician, political party, or principle. These are all just concepts the same way our school mascot was. In our imagination we can do both.
Why the Emotional and Visceral Reactions in Politics?
What if I am identified with beliefs or principles of a political party? What if the ideas and ideology are what I support? What if the principles I believe in are like my team. The politicians are my team captains. I support them, I uphold them and I defend them. If you so something in opposition to my principles and team mates I will feel personally attacked. You didn’t attack me, but I would respond emotionally as if you did. I could feel threatened, or hurt. In feeling threatened I’m inclined to defend my opinions as if I was defending myself. If my party wins the election, then I feel like I win. If my politician loses the election, then I feel like I lost. If it is the Presidential Election, then it is like playing for the championship. These are the dynamics of escalation from a political discussion or debate to an argument. If you take sides with a party or policy then your feeling of winning can be threatened by a political opponent. It will be difficult to see the media, which act as referees calling the game, as being fair. If you take the debate in this emotionally invested way to your family relationships you may end up not talking to them very much.
At its worst we can become more closely identified with our ideas and concepts of principles than with ourselves as human beings. We feel we represent and connect with ideas and political policy concepts instead of connect with other human beings. We ignore our human identity and connection with one another and attack others in defense of our ideas, policies, and “principles”. This is what happens when we lose our consciousness to the mental state of ideas. Our beliefs bias us against humans through attack and defend conversations, arguments and Facebook posts of opposition.
You can find the full article at my Happiness Blog on
Belief Bias in Politics
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