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| We collect beliefs, and our mind learns to process ideas and emotional patterns in automated ways. By the time we are adults there is so much automated in our emotions, comunications, behavior, and thoughts it may seem like we don't have control anymore.
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The Self Mastery Course is a step by step set of exercises to retrain your mind, emotions, thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors.
Modules on Releasing Emotions and Anxiety
Specific exercises for releasing emotions and working through Anxiety issues in the
Belief System Animation on Jelousy that breaks down the beliefs generating all that drama. Check it out, and in the comments, let me know what you think.
I just had an animation video made using the same principles and steps you can use the inventory to help you identify beliefs of all kinds.
Now A Bit About Self Discovery
I used to think that I knew it all. No. That’s not correct. It was worse than that. I knew that I knew better than other people. I didn’t want to act like I had an ego though. So I downplayed it. I wasn’t one of those arrogant guys that talked a lot. I was quieter but I would pick my places to reveal my intelligence. I have to revise that earlier comment. I knew that I didn’t know it all, but I felt I knew a lot and I kept my mouth shut about what I didn’t know. I didn’t want people to think I was stupid. Uninformed was okay, but mis-informed was not. That was tantamount to being stupid. In those situations when I wasn’t sure, but I wanted to look smart, or at least not appear stupid, I kept my mouth shut.
When I did speak about something that I knew about I tried to make it soft spoken. I didn’t want it to sound like I was trying to impress anyone. It was a mask of humility. 23 years ago I started practicing awareness and began to see how hard I was working to impress people. I had consciously worked on the humble soft spoken part. I was so consciously focused on that I didn’t see the part underneath working for recognition.
As I think about it now, it is pretty obvious that the reason I was working so hard to be soft spoken about how smart I thought I was had to be that there was such a force of ego pushing out trying to get noticed. I would only be so focused on being casual and humble if the part that “believed I was great” was trying hard to get that recognition.
The more interesting part is that there was another layer under that. It was the belief about not being good enough. So for those of you keeping score at home here is how the layers of my ego stacked up:
– Down play how smart I am. - Soft spoken when I talked about what I knew
- I’m smart and I want you to recognize me – Looking to jump into a conversation and be seen as smart. This was hiding the next layer.
– Not good enough - insecurity, self judgement, and fear of what others thought of me.
Read the rest at my blog on
False Humility and Self Image
Gary van Warmerdam
- Article: Happiness is All Made Up
Someone kicking the tires on my Self Mastery program asked, “Is being really happy possible? I think this talk about living with love is a bunch of Pollyanna Woo Woo. It might just all be made up.”
My answer is, Yes. IT is all made up!!!! That is kind of the point. We are all creators of our own emotions. From nothing we created thoughts and emotions and stories. We create behaviors and actions in how we treat people and how we treat ourselves. Self-criticism, fear of what others think, feelings from failure, success, or rejection are all created by us from nothing but our beliefs. If we have free will, and all the great traditions point to us as having free will, then we have autonomy in what we create.
All happiness and love is made up. We create it from nothing. Each day we wake up and we have not created anything yet. Each day we live can have a different experience outcome. We may not control the events or circumstances outside of us, but we can choose a better story than what we tell our selves or what we believe about it. This better story, or our interpretation about what is going on will change how we feel.
What often interferes with us choosing how we want to live is that we have created a number of pre-programmed responses. Our mind is set up to do some Pavlov dog type automated interpretations. I call these programs our belief system. Some of these programmed beliefs system we may be aware of, and others are unconscious to us. We may see and experience the emotions we create from them, but the beliefs themselves are so automated we don’t notice. Much like many of our automated actions while driving a car go unnoticed so do our thoughts and interpretations. So we do those automated responses instead of create something enjoyable.
Here is a simple example.
Let’s say our partner has a glass of water and then leaves the glass on the counter. They could have put it in the dishwasher, or cleaned it and put it away but they didn’t. Maybe the programmed response we have is something of a big reaction:
What is this doing here? I’ve told him dozens of times to put his dishes away after he is done. He just doesn’t listen to me. He doesn’t care about what I say. He doesn’t listen to me and he doesn’t respect me. He treats me like a free maid service. I can’t stand this relationship anymore.” You end up feeling hurt, frustrated, and maybe even worthless and angry. The emotions will vary depending on the beliefs.
You can find the full article at my Happiness Blog
How to Stay C
onscious and Aware
My book, MindWorks, is available.
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Gary van Warmerdam