Now lets get to details.
A common problem in flirting is getting a label, that you will have
hard
time getting rid off. When you meet someone, being labeled is the worst
thing
that can happen to you. Yet it happens to us daily and everyone does it.
First
impression shouldn’t count, yet it counts for so much that more often
than not
you won’t get a second chance.
"Oh, you are ONE OF THOSE: _fill in the blank_." And then
you wear it that label like an invisible name tag.
Today we will take how labeling and flirting mix together. Lets take
the most
popular question in dating : “ what you
do for living.” Everyone asks it, on every date. Yet it is far from
harmless, in
fact talking about your job is can be deadly for a date you are on.
It's
a disease. And it's terminal to flirting.
Lets take a look at example, lets say you are budding accountant.
You
are on a date, with a really attractive date and you couldn’t be
happier. Conversation
just started and things are rocking between you and your date. Now we
come to a
point of the fabled question.
#1: What do you do for living?
#2: Oh, I'm an accountant.
Congratulations... You've just put yourself in a box, #2. #1 has
all kinds of ideas of what an accountant's life is like... and your
interest
in Skiing and traveling to India, China, and Nepal aren't part of them.
Even though, you are an interesting person, you just made yourself come
off
like a total lame-o. You are #2: THE ACCOUNTANT. I'm sure everyone
reading this is getting hot over that label.
REWIND....Lets try again.
#1 What do you do?
#2 Wow, that's a big question, How much time you got? I do as much
skiing as
time allows, and I'm very into traveling. Before I die I want to see
every country on the silk road.
That's better #2. Now #1 can ask you what the hell the silk road
is... And you can save the story about losing your passport in China
for
another date...
So should you be animated?
Yes. But not to the point where you are reacting to things that
really
don't even interest you.
So should you be funny?
Yes. But not to the point where you leave the other person wondering
if you're not capable of being serious.
So should you talk about yourself in the form of stories?
Yes. But not to the point where the other person feels you have told
them everything about yourself, and there is no mystery to you. We all
want
to unwrap the pretty package, we want to discover. Leave something for
the 2nd date and the 3rd date.
Remember, flirting improves with practice -- so get out there and
start
exercising your flirting muscles.