|Self Mastery Course
| We collect beliefs, and our mind learns to process ideas and emotional patterns in automated ways. By the time we are adults there is so much automated in our emotions, comunications, behavior, and thoughts it may seem like we don't have control anymore.
You can get control back.
The Self Mastery Course is a step by step set of exercises to retrain your mind, emotions, thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors.
New Modules on Releasing Emotionis and Anxiety
Specific exercies for releasing emotions and working through Anxiety issues in the
It is a Season for Change. If you want it to be.
Like the seasons, every year I go through a process of change. I take time to reflect on what I do, how I have spent my time, what I enjoy, what is fulfilling, and what doesn’t work. It isn’t the only time during the year that I do this, but at the end of each calendar cycle I take extra notice.
I put aside some projects that don’t seem fulfilling, or that I assume won’t bear much fruit. Projects that inspire me are moved to the top of my list to work on this year. What I spend my time and attention on is considered. Most importantly I look at how I feel emotionally, and prioritize things around my happiness. It is more a feeling and emotional process than a logical one.
I don’t know what the results will be so I can’t make a decision based on that. I can only make assumptions about future outcomes. I only get to know how I feel about doing it right now.
You don’t get to know what the results of your labor will be. You get to change your expressions and your actions and then measure the results. I think of planning for the future much like blacking out the front windshield of your car and looking in the rear view mirror. You can’t see what is in the future. You can only see what is behind you in the rear view mirror, the past. Based on the past we make assumptions and decisions about tomorrow, what will work, and what won’t, and we steer our life in that direction. It’s not the best decision making system, but since we don’t know what tomorrow will bring, it is better than none. I know that I don’t know, but I will consciously make an assumption, and in that I have the confidence to move forward. Most of the stuff I plan and intend doesn’t turn out the way I pictured it. Such is life. We keep taking actions as we create. Don’t let this not knowing cause you to hesitate very long.
read more about this process for change on my blog, or experience it for your self at
one of my events this year.
Gary van Warmerdam
March 1st - 5th
Sussex County New Jersey March 25th and 26th
Unity of Sussex Lafayette NJ. Lecture and Workshop.
Saturday Workshop 11 am to 3 pm. $50
Sunday Workshop 1-3 pm. $20
UNITY OF SUSSEX OFFICE: 973-383-6277
North Carolina Outer Banks
April 2nd - 8th 2017
Spiritual Retreat to Mexico
October 15 - 21st 2017.
|Pyramid of the Sun at Teotihuacan
This event is the most intensive and transformative of all my retreats. The expansions we make to our conscousness and expansion of love often takes weeks or months to integrate once we get back home.
|Dinner together at Teotihuacan
| Article: Healing and Reconciliation
Conflicts are bound to arise, whether they are in our marriage, with our children, or between groups in society. The resolution of conflict involves something different than figuring out who was right. Ego’s take us away from understanding and towards prolonged conflict and unhappiness. To create a peaceful coexistence both parties need to listen and understand each other. Once both parties understand the other, you are a step closer to reconciliation and in some cases you have peace.
After you have been harmed, there is something in the human psyche that seeks a confirmation from the other party about the past indiscretion. Often this is done just by recognizing remorse in the other person. At other times this can be done with a simple apology. We learned to do it at 5 years old on the playground. If one child hurt another, the teachers stopped the fighting and got the two kids to understand the other’s experience. Once that was done, there would be an apology and they could go on and play and be friends again.
It looks simple but there are some critical social steps that need to happen in that process that are often overlooked as adults. Because these elements are lacking is why problems in your relationship, protests in society, and conflicts between cultures can go on for years or generations. What we need as humans to reconcile our past relationships whether between our spouse, or another race are often the same.
Imagine that you are at a concert. It’s your favorite band and it’s rocking and rolling. The person in the next seat is excited, jumping up and down, and they accidentally bump into you. Maybe your neighbor steps on your foot, or maybe you get an errant elbow. Its not really painful, but it is bothersome. You are polite and you don’t say anything. You figure they noticed and so you let it go. But then it happens a few more times. It’s all in good fun, but it is interfering with your enjoyment of the concert.
What do you want in that situation? What would help?
Maybe they play a mellow song next and so your neighbor calms down. But in your head you are still bothered by what might be coming when the beat picks up again. The problem looks solved in the moment, but maybe it’s just the mellow song? You can’t be sure. You want to be able to just let it go and trust that it won’t happen again, but you don’t have any way of knowing.
You could take a moment during the mellow song to point out what they were doing. What kind of response from your neighbor would work to alleviate your concerns so you could enjoy the show? What kind of response wouldn’t?
What you want is for them to acknowledge what happened and recognize the impact it had on your toes, or your person. If they respond with concern or remorse you can trust them to be good human beings that will be more careful. When they have empathy or remorse for what you experienced something in you registers that it will be okay now. You are understood at an emotional level. When that happens you may not even need an apology, or a promise that it won’t happen again. Something in your consciousness recognizes that they are now aware and will be more careful. These are seemingly small, but crucial elements in this exchange. Without them, you will feel that you can’t trust the situation, and you will worry about elbows coming your way.
Article Continued at
Healing and Reconciliation
My book, MindWorks, is available.
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Gary van Warmerdam